What mistake we make when dealing with depressed people?

As we know that human is a social animal who cannot live alone, without interacting with people. We can not live without communicating with our loved ones everytime. As it's a human tendency that wo do mistakes by hurting others with our words or actions. As we humans become so careless in our actions and words that sometimes we had no idea that how our words are destroying someone's peace of mind and affecting their life.

Communicating with those who don't have any kind of trauma or any Psychological issue is somehow easy but we have to be cautious when dealing with people who are gone through any sort of traumatic events in their life or going through depression or any Psychological issue.

Here I am describing those points which we must keep in our mind while communicating with our loved ones who are going through hard times in their life .

1. Don't remind them about their traumatic event: 

The major mistake we do while dealing with such people is that we keep reminding them about their traumatic event. We keep reminding them about their past. We keep asking them about that particular event. We just start questioning to them. Instead of helping them letting go that certain painful event we keep reminding them. In short we worked as a salt on their wounds. For example, you just visit your friend who just got divorced from her husband and due to which she is facing great emotional pain and trauma. Now when you meet that friend you start asking silly questions to her that are you upset because of your divorced? I mean what's the purpose of this question? Why we people become so heartless and become blind mentally that we are unable to console someone? 

 why your husband filed divorce? What are the major issues? It's too sad that you people don't have baby at all. Now it's so difficult for you to find someone again. How you will spent your life alone? And everytime you meet that friend you keep asking that silly question that how is your life going without your husband?

These create negative emotions to that person because after any traumatic or painful event people try to forget that event or the person who caused them pain. They are struggling with their own self to forget that particular person but whenever they listen anything about their past their all hard work become zero they had painful flashback of their past events which makes it hard for them to live their life normally.

2. Do not torture them by reminding them about their mistakes:

The worst thing we do with others is that we keep taunt others by reminding them about their mistkes. If one of your friend met with an tragic accident because he was driving too fast and now he is injured badly and become paralyzed or any kind of severe injury every time we meet that person we keep reminding them that it was your mistake or fault that why you were driving so fast and now see you become paralyzed and how would you spent your life in that condition? These type of words destroys person in a matter of seconds. He/she already going through lot of pain physically and mentally and now that person completely lost  hope just because of your painful words.

Sadly, not only our friends or relatives do this shitty things with us but our own family play major role in it. Instead of relieving their child's pain parents shows unethical and childish behavior
with their kids. As parents have no idea that how to make their child emotionally strong. Any individual needs their parents love,support, affection first  when going through any kind of emotional or physical pain.

3.  Stop making judgments:

The worst thing we do while dealing with someone who is going through any sort of trauma in their life is by making judgements abut them. Instead of knowing the whole story we start making judgments. Often after a divorced, breakup or loosing a job we make assumptions and judgments that he/she must have adjustment issues. We people have no idea that how our judgments leave a negative impact on someone.

4. Do not expect too much positivity from them:

When someone is going through hard times in their life he/she become less positive and become pessimistic. Due to which a person become rude most of the time and had difficulty while dealing with their loved ones. Now we start getting irritated by that person behavior that why he/she is showing attitude and why that person is acting rude and then we stop consoling them because of their negativity and attitude. But its our responsibility to understand them in their difficult time, give them space and do not expect them too much positive response for a limited period of time.