In today's world where people is vocal about his/her rights, where people are talking about being independent and setting their own style to live their life. As we become socially active like ever before and that's we are familiar of almost everything which is going in this world. On side we become very advanced, trying to change the so caller norms of our culture and country while on the other side apart from being too open we are still stuck to our social norms. Our society still forced us to wear that particular persona to survive. Otherwise society and it's people will never let us live peacefully.
No matter how much we become developed in terms of finance, knowledge but still we have to follow our society. One of the biggest flaw we do in the name of societal rules is that we still do not accept the concept of individuality as we are unable to accept change. Anything which seemes unique we start doing judge instead of accepting the way it is. As people now a days are studying more Psychological concepts and theories but still having knowledge about human Psyche and behavior we are failed to accept the individual the way they are. We have no stamina to accept unique personalities around us. We keep judging people no matter how much they are doing in their life.
If I talk about different personalities which are Introvert, Extrovert and ambivert then we can sense that Extrovert and ambivert are acceptable in our society in many ways while Introverts are not very acceptable in our society. They have hard time in proving themselves that they are also part of the society. Again I would like to say that most probably not everyone can feel and understand all the sufferings which an introvert faced. It could be felt by an introvert itself and people who are Empath.
In today's world ,it's feel like being socially active becomes Mandatory to survive. People who do not meet this criteria are often criticized and traumatized through various ways.
Here I am explaining those pain and tryna which is faced by an Introvert.
1. Traumatic by their own family:
Since, Introverts are shy does not like to talk much, avoid social gathering and events, feels disconnected from world. Due to such acts their families faced big disappointments when their child do not participate in conversation, avoid social events and speak less. From childhood, parents of Introverts are more concerned towards their kid and they try their best to transform their child behavior but since it's not something changeable. When parents failed to change their child's personality then they become angry, aggressive towards their child. Because an introvert finds it too difficult to sit among various people even their own relatives. That's why an introvert often become limelight in family gathering.
Their parents traumtized them whole life that they are not able to survive in this world. They often humiliate their Introvert child of not being able to socialize and talk. They feels like their child is lack of confidence and socializing skills and often they humiliate their child infront of others. As a result,an introvert often become adult without support and warmth of their parents.
2. Psychological issues:
Since, Introverts are not socially active,do not have much friends to talk and share their problems. They feels isolated from external world. They are misunderstood by their own family and friends. As a result, they often become a victim of depression or other Psychological issues. They are sometimes poor at explaining themselves to the world. They have certain fear that people would judge them. Poor connection with the world and loneliness leads them toward mental health issues.
3. Loses opportunities:
One of the worst thing of being an Introvert is that due to being shy, poor communication skills,less talkative, socially inactive, less confidence they often loose job opportunities. At workplace apart from having a degree from reputed institute, a person's communication skills is needed. Now a days, almost every job requires interaction with people since Introverts are not very good in interaction so they prefer Extrovets over introverts.
An Introvert become limelight at their work place often due to their all time serious look, their less participation in events and meetings.
4. Issues at Educational level:
As we all know that we cannot do all the things alone without interaction and without engaging with people. An introvert suffers from their school life. Since they always give serious look to others and people thought that they are rude so they avoid interaction with them. Just like a job, schools,colleges, universities also performs group activities and projects. Now again an Introvert child suffers during their whole Educational life because they find much difficult to do group work. They are used to do work alone as they feels energized alone and feels suffocated around group people. People also shows reluctance to work with an introvert because people have perception about Introverts that they are rude and hard to handle and usually people like those who are talkative and easy going. In short, Introverts suffers a lot at workplace.
5 . Difficulty in relationships and friendship:
Since, Introverts are quite creatures this creates wrong impression among their loved ones. People usually have perception about them that they are rude. Mostly Introverts used to be emotional,Empath and deep thinkers. They require the same intimacy and emotional attachment with their partner. But often they did not get the same amount of love and intimacy from their loved ones. They faced difficulty in managing their relationship because people want to change them. Most of the people forced them to be more talkative and social. Since, Introverts are poor at explaining themselves,this often leads to conflicts because the other person perceived them wrong.
The worst part of being an Introvert is that they are being judged whole life by their loved ones and strangers. No one even try to understand them. People who are not aware of different personalities can never understand an introvert but usually people know about Introvert personality but still they give hard time to Introverts. The whole society forced them to live according to them.
Self care tips for an introvert to take care of their Mental health :
1. Accept yourself:
Problems begins when we do not accept yourselves the way are. This unacceptance creates lot of unstoppable negative thoughts , emotions and feelings. Introverts must accept themselves as the way they are because God did not create any of his creature useless. An Introvert must realize the importance of his presence in this world. A person must admire themselves, should recall all his/her strengths,skills and positiveness. Good things will start to happen when we start to accept ourselves. Keep remember that God create us different and enjoy being different from others.
2. Ignore:
The best way to avoid conflict is to ignore. People will lower your confidence,mock at you and annoy. They will make you feel inferior from others. The best way to deal with such toxicity is to ignore them. We cannot stop someone but we can ignore them. Make sure that other statements about you will not make you down.
3. Do not put extra effort on people:
Sometimes an introvert become anxious and depressed due others opinion and they put extra effort to reach on people's standard which is totally wrong thing. Someone else opinion should not be become much important in your life that it starts affecting your well-being. Just remember that we are not here in this world to live according to them.
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